Kathie Lee & Hoda: In-Laws Christmas Visit
The holiday season means a dreaded visit to the in-laws for many married folks. The Today Show co-hosts Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb welcomed Dr. Janet Taylor and Lesley Jane Seymour, editor-in-chief of More Magazine, to the set for some Holiday Advice on getting together with your significant other’s family and Visiting In-Laws. I can’t help but think of the “Meet the Parents” with Ben Stiller and Robert De Nero – just for the pure comedy of meeting in-laws. Of course, if you’re experiencing it first hand the humor may be lost!
Today Show: Dr Janet Taylor In-Law Advice
Simply put, people don’t realize how awful they are, Taylor said, and you have to let a person know when they are being hurtful in situations involving family gatherings, especially around the holidays. If an in-law is making snippy remarks about your cooking, unwilling to let you help out with a task, or otherwise being a jerk, it’s important to make it known you’re part of the family too. Often times the husband or wife who is connected to the family by blood can be oblivious and it’s your job to step in, maybe with a little humor to keep the mood light. It’s typically better to hold your ground than let one bad apple on the other side run all over you. In many cases, the other person isn’t even aware they are doing anything wrong. As is the case with many things, communication is key.
Today Show: Lesley Jane Seymour In-Law Advice
Seymour agreed, saying that people often stay silent and hold in their resentment. Keeping those feelings inside is ultimately unhealthy and can lead to bad feelings towards in-laws that lasts holiday season after holiday season. It’s best to nip any bad feelings in the bud, rather than deal with the issue in year three or four. Plus, dealing with it early can minimize any hard feelings with your significant other.
Other issues may occur when newlyweds must decide which family to visit for the holidays. The best way to handle this conundrum, according to Seymour, is to split up Christmas and Christmas Eve, or do it the old-fashioned way and alternate one year to the next. Another option is to pick neutral ground (now it’s sounding like a real battle!) and get some hotel rooms.
The last option sounds nice in theory but lacks any sense of home and can be expensive. What do you think? Leave your best advice in the comments section.