Kathie Lee & Hoda: Nice Guys Vs Kind Guys
Kathie Lee and Hoda welcomed Today Show’s contributing love strategist Matthew Hussey to share his take on nice guys and why they should shoot for kind instead. And yes, there’s a difference!
He explained that niceness can actually hurt the people it’s intended to please. He said if you’re not honest, you’re not giving someone the opinion they need to grow. If you don’t cut them down when they need to be cut down, in the end you’re not demanding the respect you need and deserve.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Nice Guys Finish Last
According to Matthew Hussey, nice guys really should finish last, right along with mean guys. He explained that “nice” in most cases, is a euphemism for spineless. He said there’s a difference between nice and kind. Kind is a proactive word, meaning you want to actually do something. Whereas nice is not wanting to offend and being overly cautious.
He said that woman don’t want a nice guy because when they’re in trouble, the nice guy isn’t the one you want around. Women want someone who’s bold and who can take charge and lead. The nice guy usually doesn’t do that.
He gave an example of nice guys vs kind guys saying that when going out, a nice guy will say “what do you want to do tonight” when they really need to “be a man” and stand up and make a decision. He said guys need to stop being so nice all the time.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Naughty Vs Nice Guys
Matthew Hussey also said that too many people are afraid to rock the boat, so they’re completely boring. He said they shouldn’t be afraid to offend someone.
Hoda also pointed out that certain things need to be discussed, and Hussey said that nice guys don’t dicuss things. Nice guys aren’t often naughty, he said, and they should be. Hussey also said that women constantly come across men who are complete jerks who treat them bad, or who are nice and boring, and there’s not much in between.
So what’s my take on all this? I have to agree with Matthew Hussey. It’s good for the men to take charge and make decisions. Us women are strong enough to stand up for ourselves if we disagree, but take the chance and “be the man” as he said, because we really do prefer it that way. I’m old-fashioned in that I prefer men make the first move when it comes to everything. It’s frustrating when all we hear is, “I don’t know. What do you want to do”.