Dr Phil: Life Code Advice
Dr. Phil is very proud of his book Life Code. He takes every opportunity to point people to the book because our world has changed. We live in a world with new challenges where benefit of the doubt is not good enough.
He wants to help Kim go from “victimized to victim wise.” The first step is to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt. Kim was looking for the good in her husband Mike and he ended up lying to her for years. He lied that he had multiple jobs, received raises and promotions and that he was traveling for work. All along Mike was playing solitaire on his computer and sleeping in the back of his van.
Dr Phil: Sweet 16 Rules For Winners
In Life Code, Dr. Phil encourages readers to follow his sweet 16 rules for winners. He believes that all winners follow these rules:
- Defined image
- Perception of uniqueness
- Play “big”
- Accept praise
- Become essential
- Know your real currency
- Always have a plan
- Keep things close to the vest
- Investigatory mode
- Behave your way to success
- Keep options open
- Master the system
- Nucleus of supporters
- Deal only with truth
- Use others’ ego
- Pick your battles
He cautioned Kim to put investigatory mode at the top of her priorities. If she had looked for the signs she could have avoided a lot of heartbreak and turmoil with Mike. Her sister was curious as to what Mike was doing, and she was the one who called the MLB to find that Mike did not work there.
Dr Phil: House Fires
Kim and Mike went through two house fires in a year and a half. Dr. Phil said that the statistics for house fires are low and that two in that time span are highly unlikely. Kim has suspicions that Mike set the fires, but he said he did not.
Mike did not even stay home and help Kim sort through the house after the fire. He kept up the ruse and went to his fake jobs.
Dr Phil: Being a Winner
Dr Phil told Kim that to be a winner she needed to treat this experience like an education. She can see the loss as a tuition to an education and she shouldn’t let people take advantage of her again. She should not let it break her, because then she would be victimized and not victim wise. She needs to pull herself up for her son and create a plan to be a leader. Curling up and letting it destroy her would make her a victim that is destroyed by this.