Dr Oz: Losing Intimacy
Did you know that 15% of American couples are not finding time for intimacy with one another? Dr Oz invited psychologist, relationship expert and author Esther Perel to share her insights and advice from a 30-year marriage.
Why do women who are happy in their relationships not make personal intimacy a priority? Perel speaks candidly with women about the state of their marriages and their desires. Busy schedules, kids, and predictability can put a damper on things, according to a focus group Esther assembled for Dr Oz.
Dr Oz: Men Vs Women in Relationships
Esther Perel, a psychologist and author, told Dr Oz that low desire in relationships can be a natural function after years together. What can be done?
Perel told Dr Oz about the misconception that men are always interested while women are not. As we get into our 30s and 40s, spending time in the bedroom can sometimes get pushed to the bottom of the to do list, and sometimes it can feel like an obligation.
However, just because you have noticed changes in the bedroom does not mean your relationship is in trouble. Perel said that, in a long-term relationship, a man’s desire will gradually decrease, while a woman’s is more likely to plummet dramatically.
That is not, she told Dr Oz, a reflection of lack of desire, and may be more a statement that making love has become boring. Mystery (which subsides the longer you are together) and the intellectual aspect are also a part of the equation that differentiates us from animals.
Dr Oz: Why Do I Have Low Desire?
Declining Estrogen and other changes associated with aging can sometimes contribute a physical complication to the situation. Perel told Dr Oz that the lips and other more subtle areas of the body, such as the elbows, can be exciting to explore.
A survey of Dr Oz viewers found that almost half felt their love lives had flatlined in the bedroom. Perel said she did not think women should let this part of their lives and selves go in exchange for other aspects of life.
Dr Oz: Quality Vs Quantity in Love
Esther Perel also said that she thinks quality is more important than quantity. Some experts advise setting a quantity as a barometer of a healthy love life. But she disagrees, saying that mutual satisfaction is more important than compulsory performance. Assume that your partner is excited by your excitement.
Does this sound familiar to you? Find out how you can use these concepts to help recharge your relationship.
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