Today Show: Anna Post Modern Manners & Restaurant First Date Etiquette


Today Show: Anna Post Dating Etiquette

Today Show talked to Anna Post, the great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, who is the co-editor of the 18th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette. Matt Lauer sat down with her at a table and the two pretended to be on a first date while Matt Lauer asked her about first date rules.

First up, the trickiest one of all in this modern age: who pays? Anna Post said that whoever does the asking does the paying. This seems like a simple rule and one I didn’t know. Which makes me wonder what happens if I assume this role is solid, but my date has never read Etiquette or seen this spot on the Today Show about it. But let’s not over-think it.


Today Show: Anna Post Modern Manners & Restaurant First Date Etiquette

Anna Post didn’t mention this, but I think it’s also important to consider on a first date that if you want to drink your wine out of a gigantic wine glass, you must make sure your partner has that option, too and is okay with your choice.

Anna Post also said that a lot of women offer to pay or reach for their money, at least to look like they want to pay. Matt Lauer asked what happens if he says the woman can pay or can chip in. Does it mean he has no interest in pursuing things with the woman? Anna Post said not to read too much into it that. It might just mean that they’re keeping it light.

Anna Post: Baby Boomers And Dating

Matt Lauer brought up the issue of Baby Boomers who are dating now who aren’t sure whether the dating rules they learned when they were younger still apply. As an example, he mentioned pulling out a chair for a woman. Is that outdated? Anna Post said that if that’s something you feel comfortable doing, you should do it. But if you’ve never done that before, it won’t feel genuine when you do it.


Anna Post: Families At Dinner

Anna Post also said that when you bring your kids out to dinner, it’s a good opportunity to show them how to act. She also said it’s important to make sure they know to put their napkin in their lap. Anna Post said elbows on the table are okay, as long as you’re not slouching or grabbing a fork or a glass with your elbows on the table.

Today Show: Business Meeting Etiquette

Anna Post said that when you shake hands with someone at a table, make sure to stand to do it. Otherwise, you might hit someone in the face or come so close that it’s just rude. Also, don’t check your digital devices. Anna Post said you should spend time with the people you’re scheduled to spend time with. Even if you think you’re multitasking, you don’t look like you are.


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