Kathie Lee & Hoda: State Of Divorce In America
We may walk down the aisle with the best of intentions but usually it takes more than good intentions to make a marriage last. According to Kathie Lee and Hoda, about 20 percent of first marriages end in divorce in the first five years, about 33 percent do not even make it to the 10 year mark and an astounding 43 percent of marriages end by the 15 year mark.
With so many people getting divorced nowadays, Kathie Lee and Hoda wanted to discuss how to get over the divorce and move on with your life. They called on the help of two experts. Monique Honaman is the author of The High Road Has Less Traffic and Rachel Sussman is the author of The Breakup Bible, and both of them are experts on divorce.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Take the High Road In Divorce
Monique Honaman has been through divorce before and she does not want to get stuck in the negativity ever again. She was married for 17 years before she got divorced. She said she became the cliche 40-year-old mother with two kids and her husband met someone new and remarried. She was enveloped in jealousy and bitterness but she said she did not show it because of her children. She wanted to set an example.
Sussman said the bitterness after a marriage ends can get to you but you have to let it go. She said you need to have hope that everything will be fine and take the high road after the marriage ends.
“There is nothing gained from being negative,” Sussman said.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Happily Ever After Is Gone Forever
Hoda said she can remember when she was married and she sometimes plays back some of those memories from the marriage. She wanted to know if it is healthy to look back on that time in her life and both experts said everyone deals with divorce in a different way.
Honaman said your “happily ever after” might have ended but that doesn’t mean things can’t get better. Sussman pointed out that a 15 year marriage is a long marriage and there were bound to be good times. She said it was a part of your life but women need to remember it is a part of their life that is in the past and it needs to stay in the past.
Kathie Lee was a little more pessimistic than everyone else.
“There is no more happily ever after and we need to stop telling our daughters there is,” Kathie Lee said.