Kathie Lee & Hoda: State Of Marriage In America 2013
Making a marriage last in this day and age is not easy to do. The state of marriages in America is looking pretty dismal with only 51 percent of people in America married right now, an all-time low. But an interesting statistic has shown 61 percent of people who have yet to be married, would like to be married in the future.
Is marriage becoming obsolete in America or do people just want to wait longer to find their perfect match?
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Is Marriage Becoming Obsolete In America?
In an effort to answer the question of whether marriage is becoming obsolete, Kathie Lee and Hoda invited Dr. Argie Allen, a relationship therapist, and Hal Runkel, author of ScreamFree Marriage, onto the show.
Runkel jumped right on the question saying marriage is not becoming obsolete because it is very rare to meet someone in their 50s and 60s who is not married and it is even more rare to meet someone who has never been married by that age.
Hoda wondered why you should risk becoming a divorce statistic. Hal Runkel said it comes down to partnership. Everyone wants someone there for them and everyone wants to have some type of support. He also speculated that Americans get married to solidify their realtionship. If you have children, you want to tell them you are married to their father so they see the stability. Dr. Allen pointed out that many couples do not get married and that is okay too. She said whatever works best for your relationship is what you should continue doing.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Step Out Of Your Marriage Comfort Zone
Runkel said the one thing every married couple needs to do is step out of their comfort zone. He said you need to step out of the comfort zone especially when talking with a spouse. As he put it, “It is better to be rubbed the wrong way, than never to be rubbed at all.”
Dr. Allen said not discussing things will turn the topic into the “Grand Canyon” and if you do not deal with the problem, the problem will deal with you. She also added that a healthy relationship is measured by how well we react and handle a situation when we are mad.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Avoid Being Roommates With Your Spouse
Runkel said the number one thing to avoid is becoming roommates with your spouse. He said it is imperative for a married couple to connect on an intimate physical level. He said once that is gone, then you are just roommates. He added that marriage is for two people who connect with each in such a unique way, they never connect with anyone else in that way again.
Dr. Allen’s best advice for keeping the marriage working is to focus on the marriage and talk with your spouse about how you want the marriage to work out.