Kathie Lee & Hoda: Should You Lie To Your Spouse?
During relationships everyone wants the other person to be honest, especially women, but some experts are saying it might be a good idea to lie to your significant other from time to time about subjects that won’t hurt the relationship or should be private in the first place.
Dr. Catherine Birndorf told Kathie Lee and Hoda when a woman asks her husband “how do I look,” they may not be asking just that question. There are always more underlying questions. Others that pertain to this scenario may be “do you think I look good enough” or “do you love me when I wear this.” Although you may not be lying when you say you like the dress or they look good, it is always best to say those things anyway. She said the man is not lying to the woman when he tells her she looks good, he is simply avoiding a confrontation.
Dr. Birndorf said you must always know your audience. Is this the kind of person who will be mad about a lie or are they the type of person who wants to hear something to make them feel better about themselves? Therapist Ian Kerner told Kathie Lee and Hoda sometimes lying to your spouse will stop an argument from happening.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Should You Keep Dreams Secret?
Hoda wanted to know what Kathie Lee would tell her husband if she had a steamy dream about another man, and she told Hoda she wouldn’t tell her husband. She might tell him she had a great dream but not what it was about, and Dr. Birndorf agreed that she should keep it to herself. It is something private, and she doesn’t have to divulge the information if she doesn’t want to.
Ian Kerner, on the other hand, told the women they should talk to their husbands or boyfriends about steamy dreams they have. It could spice up everything happening in the bedroom.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Tell Your Husband About a Cute Neighbor?
Hoda wanted to know what Kathie Lee would tell her husband if a cute neighbor moved in next door. Would she tell her husband the neighbor is cute? Kathie Lee said she would tell her husband the neighbor is cute but she wouldn’t explain why or go into detail or say much of anything else on the topic.
Dr. Birndorf said many of us would do the same thing Kathie Lee would do because we want to protect the other person’s feelings. “Authenticity does not mean bold, brash honesty,” Dr. Birndorf said. Kerner pointed out again that some things are meant to be private but they often become “lies” because we feel like we need to tell our spouse, which he said is not always the case.
In the end, Kathie Lee thought it was better to be completely honest with your spouse because, as she has experienced, you can get in a lot of trouble for lying. It is always best to tell the truth. What do you think? Is lying alright sometimes or should you always tell the truth no matter what the situation is? Let us know in the comments below.