Kathie Lee & Hoda: Making & Keeping Friends
Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb talked with Dale Atkins, psychologist, and Shasta Nelson, CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com, about ways to make new friends as we get older and how and when to break up with a friend, when it just isn’t working anymore.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Best Friends
Dale Atkins said sometimes we take them for granted and sometimes we have to wonder if we are still as friendly and are we nurturing the friendships that we really want.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Outgrowing Your Friends
Shasta Nelson said that research shows we replace half our friends every seven years, so if you were to pick your bridesmaids right now. Seven years ago or seven years from now, half of them would have been different.
Dale Atkins said it can be healthy because we all change and we all grow. Sometimes people aren’t focusing on the history with that friend and there is something to be said about history and shared experiences. You go through changes, but you might have a lot in common that you want to use as your root.
Is My Friendship Worth Saving?
Shasta said that is the big question and she always tells women that we need to practice the skill of forgiveness more and the skill of not judging as much. We need to work on our own self-esteem. It’s learning to have to show up in a different way. Dale said we have those heartfelt connections and they know that when we touch base, it is really important.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: How To Break Up With A Friend
Dale Atkins said we do have to be forgiving, but when you realize it just isn’t working or you are going in different directions you have to take responsibility for that and not blame the other person. Just say you can’t be the friend you really want right now.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: Finding New Friends
Shasta said you want to be wherever people are that you want to be friends with. Whatever you are interested in doing, do that. If it is joining a choir or a hiking group, take a class or learn a sport. Dale Atkins said do things that make your own heart sing and then you’ll be your best and you’ll be open to meeting new people. Do something that you are passionate about. Shasta said it was consistency that brought those friends in school and now we need to be consistent as we get older.