Kathie Lee & Hoda: Fear Of Missing Out Disease
Have you ever had that nagging feeling that maybe you should have gone out again with that guy or maybe you should have gone to happy hour with your coworkers? Women who do it all also have a fear of missing out. Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb were joined by Joyce Chang, Executive Editor at Marie Claire, and Jennifer Hartstein, psychologist, who gave tips on getting past FOMO.
Kathie Lee & Hoda: What Is FOMO?
FOMO is short for Fear Of Missing Out. Joyce said it is a phenomenon that is taking over the planet. We want to do it all as women, and men too, and have it all and we live in a society full of choices and that is a very lucky thing. However, with those choices come actual choices and you have to choose something. For some people it can become very overwhelming and they develop a major case of FOMO.
FOMO: People That Want The Next Thing
Jennifer said with the invent of social media, we are even more like that. We have become our own publicist. We are really working to see what we can put out there, what can be exciting. We are not trained for it, which is why people do some really stupid stuff online and put pictures up they shouldn’t and do things they shouldn’t.
FOMO: Why People Share Their Rotten Behavior With The World
Jennifer said maybe it isn’t rotten behavior. Maybe it’s: I’m going to show you how great my kid is or the fabulous birthday party I had for my daughter. Then they feel envy and envy is a really challenging emotion because we don’t know how to deal with that.
FOMO: Envy In The Workplace
Joyce said absolutely it is in the workplace. They tweet about meeting the president, they talk about the conferences they go to. If you are having insecurities about your own job, then it makes you start thinking why that isn’t you that is doing it.
FOMO: Getting Over FOMO
Joyce said it is recognizing the basic fact that we can only be in one place at one time. You cannot do it all. Successful people miss out all the time, but they are choosing something else. So where they are missing out, they are also gaining something.
FOMO: Is It Insecurity?
Jennifer said for sure and we are wondering if we are making the right choices in our own lives and if I am making this choice, maybe I should have done that. Another problem with running to the next thing is that we are not living life in the moment, so we are missing what is happening right in front of you because you are busy looking what’s going on over there.
You have to be mindful of each moment and when we aren’t mindful of each moment we are missing out on the life that we are living. We are not in it, we’re just playing the game. Joyce said it is not about missing out on the party or missing out on all the things you read about on Twitter or Facebook, but that attention is taken from missing out on your own life.