The View: Lieutenant Colonel Mark Weber Tell My Sons Review
Lieutenant Colonel Mark Weber was promoted to the Military Advisor of Afghan Parliament by General David Petraeus, only to find that he had interstitial cancer soon thereafter and was told that he had only four months to live. Realizing that his time soon would be over, Mark Weber starting writing a letter to his sons about the life lessons he had learned during his time in Afghanistan. That letter was turned into a powerful book, Tell My Sons.
Lieutenant Colonel Mark Weber, his wife, Kristin, and their three sons came to the show today to talk about Tell My Sons and the lessons they have learned from their father. Mark said that this week has been pretty rough, since all of his treatments have been getting pretty rigorous, making this visit to the show and the book he’s written even more meaningful. It has been three years since his diagnosis, so it makes sense that he would be getting pretty rough at this point.
The View: How Mark Weber Cope’s With Cancer
How does Mark Weber deal with knowing that he is on death’s doorstep? We all know we’re going to die, but that is a given that sits quietly at the back of our minds, rather than an imperative that comes to the forefront. Mark has realized that a lot of sadness in life comes from mulling over options we have never been given, so he has simply enjoyed his life for what it is, not what it could be. He doesn’t think about the options that are no longer open to him because of his condition. He always focuses on what he can do with the options he has.
Though Mark Weber has dealt with bouts of anger throughout his illness, he has a message that transcends the narrow mindedness of that emotions. Tell My Sons is all about finding a way to deal with life when it doesn’t go your way. Rather than becoming delusional and trying to say something sad is happy, try to find the happiness that is likely sitting right beside the sadness.
Right now, Mark Weber is on his fourth cycle of chemotherapy and has only about 15 percent of his liver left. The doctors no longer give him a prognosis because he is supposed to be dead, and Kristin always jokes that he might be the only man ever to survive without a liver.
The View: How Mark Weber’s Family Copes With His Death
Speaking of Kristin, what encouragement does she have to offer those that are in a position similar to hers? The first thing Kristin realized is that looking too far off in the future can be devastating, so reeling your foresight back to the now, while you are still with your loved one, helps a lot with coping.
Tell My Sons was written for Mark Weber’s sons, and they were asked what they took away from the book. Matthew, the eldest, learned to keep going and to not get bogged down by the idea that they won’t have a dad before long. Noah, age 12, has ignored the problem as much as possible, and learned to take responsibility for his actions, because that is what makes you a man.
As was mentioned earlier, General David Petraeus had nothing but kind words for Lieutenant Colonel Mark Weber. He complimented Mark for his ability to shoulder such a burden with the grace that he has.
The View: The Cast Of Kinky Boots Performs
The cast of Kiny Boots, a musical based off of Geoff Deane and Tim Firth’s British film of the same name, came on the show right at the end to perform a song from the musical. With lyrics by Cyndi Lauper and some daredevil dance moves, this was quite the energetic performace.