Dr. Phil: Siblings Lindy & Chase Face-To-Face
After meeting Melinda and Scott, Dr. Phil continued his attempts at helping their broken family find peace. After 24 years of marriage and 10 children, Scott left Melinda for a 19-year-old woman, Ashley. Now, the oldest child, Whitney, is attempting to repair her family, many of whom have taken sides and no longer speak.
We got to meet Shelby, 18, Lindy, 20, and Chase, 23. While Shelby and Chase want nothing to do with their father, Lindy is the only child who lives with Scott and Ashley. Lindy hasn’t spoken to her mother since 2008 and hasn’t spoken to any of her siblings, either.
When Lindy and Chase met face-to-face, it became obvious that there was no love lost between this estranged brother and sister. They immediately began yelling at each other and both admitted to sending horrible messages via Facebook. When Scott tried to intervene, Chase snapped, “No one is speaking to you, Scott."
Melinda said that she misses her daughter Lindy, and Lindy admitted to missing her mom. The situation was so complicated, though, it seemed like nothing could fix it.
Dr. Phil: Does Melinda Contribute Or Contaminate?
Dr. Phil explained that in relationships, people either contribute or contaminate. He asked Melinda, “do you feel like you contribute or contaminate?" She answered the latter, but she eventually placed most of the blame on Scott. Whitney said that her mom once threatened that if she had a relationship with her dad, she wouldn’t be allowed to see her siblings.
Dr. Phil: Younger Siblings Speak Out
On tape, the younger children were asked to send messages to Scott. “I hate you," “you’re not my father," “you’re a deadbeat dad," and “our family doesn’t concern you," were some of the phrases they said. Dr. Phil wondered, do these phrases represent the kids’ own ideas, or are these things they’ve picked up from Melinda?
That’s when things really got out of hand. Melinda said that she never discusses Scott in the house, and Whitney and Chase put most of the blame on themselves. They believe that the younger kids have picked up these hostile words from them. Dr. Phil referred to it as “programming."
When Chase tried to further defend his mother, Dr. Phil snapped at him for being condescending. “It is inappropriate to program minor children against an absent parent, and it will come back to bite you," Dr. Phil told Melinda. He explained that the children will eventually grow to resent her for it.